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How To Initiate Healthy Conversations About Porn With Your Teen

“What!?” When my fourteen-year-old son confessed to watching porn, I was devastated. I didn’t know he could access pornography, much less that he would. My husband is a pastor, and our children were h…

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Accountability Tips for Professionals in Recovery: Protect Your Relationships, Career, and Integrity

“Accountability” will be a theme hammered home to anyone in recovery from any form of addiction. But what does it look like Merriam Webster’s dictionary defines accountability as this: "an obligation …

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You Don’t Have To Battle Alone: A Call To Accountability, Brotherhood, And Healing

For those in our community who are faith-based, former small group leader Matt Brown shares part of his journey to freedom from porn. His practical tips for hope and real change on the porn recovery j…

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​Book Review: Greta Eskridge's Gentle Guide to Discussing Porn with Kids

If porn hasn’t invaded your family, you’re one of the very fortunate few. For all the other battle-weary moms and dads, tired of combatting the online onslaught of hyper-sexualized content, fellow mom…

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Pastor Austin’s Story: Breaking Free From A Secret Porn Struggle In the Church

My name is Austin. I've struggled with a pornography addiction for many years now. I can't remember how long it's been. It's been a while, and it's been a struggle! I can speak into this, because I've…

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How to Stop Masturbating for Good: 9 Proven Steps

The pleasures of masturbation can often feel too great to give up. But, masturbation has the potential to develop into a compulsive habit tied to pornography. You may be wondering how to quit masturba…

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Why I Choose Sexual Integrity Every Day - Jonathan's Story

Living a life of duplicity Making the hard choice - honesty What it took to rebuild trust after betrayal Why choosing sexual integrity matters Focusing on the long view For those of you who ask for tr…

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The 4 Best Porn Accountability Software (Apps and Blockers)

So you’ve done it again. After promising yourself you’d quit porn for good, somehow your eyes ended up somewhere they shouldn’t. Watching adult content is an extremely difficult problem to overcome, w…

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How to Block Adult Content on Facebook - 3 Methods for Success

Picture this: You’re taking a break and mindlessly scrolling through Facebook…when wham! Out of nowhere, a seriously explicit picture shows up on your newsfeed. You look away immediately, but imagine …

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How To Stop Watching Porn -- 10 Steps to Success

If you’re struggling with how to stop watching porn, it’s worth noting that you’ve been specifically targeted by a huge industry with very deep pockets. Maybe, though, you've already tried over and ov…

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Why is my husband watching porn (tips for finding help and hope)

“I hope it was a freak accident that I saw porn in his search history,” says one anonymous wife in an online forum, *“but I’m worried that it wasn’t. He’s seemed off – moody and distant lately.” *Othe…

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The Effects of Watching Too Much Porn: Understanding the Impact

Children all over the world are finding pornography before they even hit middle school – simply by innocently playing online games or researching for a school project. Or, all too frequently, they hav…

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How To Find A Porn Accountability Partner

Porn can be one of the most isolating problems you can possibly have. It’s a vice that most people use in complete secrecy. Because it causes so much guilt and shame, and it’s hard to admit to others …

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Life-Changing Benefits of Quitting Porn: How to Get Started Today

“I haven’t watched porn in two months, and I’m not really experiencing any benefits. Seems like there’s not any point in quitting.” One guy’s honest question on the porn-free subreddit sparked a good …

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Why Am I Addicted to Porn Understanding the Root Causes and Breaking the Cycle

So you’ve done it again. After promising yourself time and time again that you’d quit porn for good, a tiny lapse somehow leads your eyes down a path you just can’t seem to escape. You might even be k…

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How To Help Someone with A Porn Addiction: A Compassionate Guide

Has someone just opened up to you about their porn problem? Or maybe you’ve noticed a loved one struggling with an unhealthy amount of porn? Whatever the case, one of the most loving things you can do…

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TikTok And Teens: Hidden Dangers Every Parent Should Know And What To Do Next

Is your teen’s nose glued to their screen, endlessly scrolling TikTok Then this stat won’t surprise YOU! A 2022 Pew Research Center study notes that in the United States alone, two-thirds of 13 to 17 …

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6 Signs of a Pornographic Style of Relating

! Guest repost from Dr. Andrew Bauman, LMHC, author and co-founder of the Christian Counseling Center. His passion is to:“work with both individuals and couples in crisis, those impacted by unwanted s…

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📣New Ever Accountable features 🆘 Help & Relapse buttons (and how to use them)

Asking for help in a weak moment can be tough! Now we’ve made it easier. We’re SO excited to introduce brand-new in-app features: our in-app, “I Need Help” button PLUS a “Relapse” button. Some of our …

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Introducing Ascend: an accessible online porn recovery program

Could your mindset be holding you back on your porn recovery journey? Here's some food for thought. Consider how life coaching has evolved into a massive billion dollar industry in the past five years…

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How to Help Your Partner with Recurring Porn Slip-Ups: A Guide for Accountability Partners

“Please help! I’ve had a major slip-up, and I’ve been watching porn again!” Your friend Jamie (fictional name) has just reached out. Now what do you do? Your hidden hero role as an accountability part…

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10 Powerful Benefits of Accountability (how to enjoy them today)

Are you questioning the benefits of accountability as you fight your personal battle against porn? Asking for help with a porn habit is often a tough first step. Or, porn may have wrecked your life so…

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Is Spotify safe for kids (or even adults)

Many of us enjoy vibing daily to our Spotify playlists. But, is Spotify safe for anyone struggling with porn use? As parents and valued customers, you deserve to know the hidden facts about Spotify. I…

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User’s Guide To Accountability On MacOS With Ever Accountable

Choosing to be accountable on your Mac is a real ninja move! We admire and respect you deeply for taking this step. Additionally, setting up accountability for yourself on all of your devices, not jus…

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Using Ever Accountable On Your Windows Computer

Choosing accountability is a big bold step forward. We admire and respect you deeply for taking this step! Additionally, setting up accountability on all of your devices, not just your phone, is a big…

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Android User’s Guide to Ever Accountable for Busy People

Welcome! We’re grateful and excited that you’re here. You’ve chosen to protect yourself and those you love from pornography in a time-tested way – accountability to another person. Even if you’re not …

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Announcing a safer, more effective experience for Accountability Partners

Accountability Partners (APs) stand as sentinels in the fight against porn. They offer encouragement when it is most needed and call us out when we try to justify a wrong decision. The partnership bet…

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How To Be A Good Accountability Partner - 6 Actionable Steps

Excess of any kind - alcohol, drugs, porn, or sex - can be very harmful to a person's physical and mental health. When left unaddressed, these can also lead to long-term problems that hijack personal …

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4 Ways to Quit Porn: Using Your Body Plus Mindfulness

I was addicted to porn for decades. I went the standard route to quit porn for years (decades, really) by going to a traditional therapist, 12 step meetings, and medication. I tried everything to stop…

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The Best Ways To Battle Pornography Use

So many express shame and guilt over porn use. You may feel absolutely stuck in that pattern. However, we've seen others battle porn successfully. "It IS possible!" says Amu, a successful and passiona…

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How To Talk To Your Husband (Or Wife) About Porn

Wondering how to talk to your partner about porn If having a conversation about porn with your spouse or potential partner feels awkward and difficult, you’re not alone. If you’re a millennial or youn…

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Non-Sexual Intimacy: 50 Ways To Enjoy Intimacy Without Sex

When you think of the most desirable, intimate moments in life, what comes to mind? If your mind leaps straight to sex, that’s understandable. After all, we’re bombarded by sexual messages and innuend…

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How To Create Age-Appropriate Android Phone Restrictions

“How do you make your phone and other tech safe for your kids?” This is a frequently asked question in parenting circles. When this topic comes up among my friends, I understand the frustration and an…

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What is Self Accountability and How to Get Started

Imagine looking back at that moment you decided things were going to be different and you’d experience freedom from pornography. Do you see yourself wondering then how on earth you’d get from point A …

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The Ultimate Guide To Books On Porn Addiction and Recovery

An ancient wisdom proverb says, “How good is a timely word!” When you’re seeking answers to life’s problems, you know there’s someone who has walked a similar path before you. And you’d like to pick t…

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The Link Between Gaming and Porn Use

It's unlikely that playing the 1980s game of Pac-Man will entice or encourage porn use or introduce suggestive imagery to the unsuspecting. But that can’t be said across the board for modern video gam…

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Porn and Marriage -- What You Don’t Know Can Hurt You

Porn and marriage don’t make a good partnership. Whether used infrequently or compulsively, porn can have a devastating effect on both partners. https://youtu.be/54xco7Z5Xb0?si=S3yONMEdfqyPVEep Table …

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How To Overcome Porn Withdrawal

!man leaning on head, customer quote about Works Cited https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/porn-addiction. 6C72 Compulsive sexual behaviour disorder, https://icd.who.int/browse11/l-m/en#/http://…

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KLZ Radio Interview "Rush to Reason" Porn and Accountability

Recently Tyler Patterson, founder of Ever Accountable, was interviewed by John Rush’s “Rush to Reason” of KLZ radio based in Denver, Colorado to chat about porn and accountability. We're sharing this …

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7 Secrets to Make your New Year's Resolution to Quit Porn a Success

The long-running jokes about failing on New Year's resolutions are getting a bit old, don't you think? ! According to studies, only nine percent of resolutioners actually succeed in their goals, and a…

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Accessibility Disconnects

On some Android devices, the Accessibility feature will sometimes turn itself off automatically which causes Ever Accountable to stop sharing reports. This is a known android bug that Ever Accountable…

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Avoiding Pornography When You're Far From Home

I recently had an enlightening conversation with \John, an athletic trainer for a local junior college football team. He opened up about his battle with pornography. Also he shared with me a few helpf…

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What to Watch Instead of Porn: The Awesomeness List of 101 Healthy Alternatives

You're doing your best. You've known for a while that pornography has become a problem in your life. You're seeing how often you get triggered, and how integral porn has become as a way to escape or n…

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Understanding Pornography Triggers in Recovery

Understanding pornography triggers - how they work and how to avoid them - requires answering the larger question of why a person is triggered. A preoccupation with pornography might begin as just tha…

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The Importance of Self-Compassion in Pornography Recovery

As much as we want it to be easy, pornography recovery can be a challenge, one often riddled with setbacks and relapses. You don't have to be an addict to know how hard it can is, or from experiencing…

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Dashboard: Why Can't I View My Own Reports

Until recently, users and accountability partners had different places to log in and see either reports or their account information. Now we have streamlined the dashboard to include everything in one…

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Accountability Partner Training #1: Why Do People Look at Pornography

The crazy thing is that most of the time, it isn't about sex. It isn't about how beautiful, thin or young a spouse or partner is. It's about the escape that he or she finds by going to this fantasy wo…

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Accountability Partner Training #2: Your Role as an Accountability Partner

Your friend will have extra strength and motivation to avoid pornography knowing that you will see the sites they visit. This is why you need to read the weekly reports. Then talk to your friend, if y…

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Accountability Partner Training #3: What Should I Do If I Discover That My Friend Looked At Pornography

When a bad report comes it's simple. "Ask questions and offer support. Do it without attack. Be bold, be gentle and be honest. Seek to understand... be prepared to listen." \- Tess Marshall, psycholog…

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Accountability Partner Training #4: Justification Sounds Like...

A justification like this always contains a lie. Here are some examples of justifications, and some of the lies they contain: “I only looked at a little bit.” It still has an effect on you. A little b…

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Accountability Partner Training #5: What is a Trigger

Your friend could be triggered by a variety of things, like feeling stressed, bored, hungry, angry, lonely or tired. Other triggers may include driving past an adult billboard, seeing someone in exerc…

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Accountability Partner Training #6: The Long-Term Change Process

Although ups and downs are normal for everyone, you should notice an overall change for the better. When your friend is being truly accountable, you will begin to see real improvement. Here are a few …

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Accountability Partner Training #7: In Case You Need More Help

We are coming to a close now and hope we have provided a great foundation for improvement. We are not therapists or psychologists, but we will do all we can to help your friend achieve their goals. If…

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